Thursday, December 3, 2015

The Truth About Being Single In College {Blogmas Day 3}



I'm a freshman in college, and I've never been in a relationship. Does that make me weird? Maybe. Honestly, I could really care less though. I was thinking about it today, and how that's impacted me as a person. So here's the real situation on what it's like being single in college:

I never set out with the intention of not dating. I always assumed I would be in a serious relationship by the time I entered college. Somehow... things worked out differently for me. That's not to say I haven't liked guys, or had guys that liked me. Things just never worked out or progressed into anything greater. Being single is an experience, and it's one I hope every person gets to have at some point. Not to sound cliché, but I really believe you grow so much as a person, and learn a lot about yourself when you're single. You have the freedom to do whatever you want, you have more free time, and you learn how to be happy without having a significant other around.

Don't be afraid to put yourself out there. I'm naturally a pretty shy person, but I've learned that in college you can't be afraid to put yourself out there. Be the first to introduce yourself, set up group hang outs, host movie nights, volunteer to help out at events, etc. Relationships are a two way street, and the best place to start is by being friendly!

It won't always be easy. Honest moment: It isn't always easy. I'm only human! I have days where I get down. Days where I wonder if maybe something is wrong with me, if guys don't find me attractive, or they think I'm annoying. That's going to happen at some point. It's easy to doubt yourself, and to wonder why you're not in a relationship when it seems like all of your friends are. So yes, you will have days, or even times in your life when being single isn't the easiest thing in the world. Which leads me to my next point...

Learn to be content. This is the biggest piece of advice I could offer you. You won't see me sitting around, sulking about not having a date on Friday night. I'm content with where I'm at in life, because I know God has a plan. I've known so many people that have wasted time whining about not having a boyfriend or girlfriend. Being discontent gets you absolutely nowhere.

The truth about being single in college is that it's an up and down ride. It will make you frustrated when your great-aunt Ruthie asks for the hundredth time if you're ever going to get a boyfriend. However it makes it pretty awesome when you know your weekend is free to go out with your friends for pizza and movies. Sometimes it will be difficult, but it can also be amazing.

I'm thankful for the single years God has blessed me with. I look at it as a time to focus on my relationship with him, and work on myself. I'm taking this time to serve him in my singleness, and to experience life. Whether you're in a relationship or you're single, know that God has an amazing plan for you. Let go and trust him. You might just be surprised how amazing it can be.

xoxo, em

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